Why do bad things happen to good people? Why do good things happen to bad people? Why does Allah/God/Buddha/Fate/Whoever allow things to happen at all? Personally, I like to keep it simple: Things happen to people. It's neither bad nor good, it's just your perception of the situation. A bad person may not really be bad. You only think they are bad. But remember, you've never seen their life as a whole.
Carrie, I hear ya! I know exactly what you are saying and thinking. I've sought the answer for years. I would try to do the right thing. Try to be the best person I could be. Give whenever possible. Help whenever I could. Go the extra mile to make the world a better place. Leave something behind that someone else could use. But no matter how much good I did, the bad always seemed to follow. The peaks and valleys of life. God's way of mixing things up.
Thinking back to my Mother, why did she get cancer? Did she do something bad? My Father was given a hard luck of the draw. What did he do? Was it something he said? What? What was it?
Carrie, the only conclusion that I have ever come to is this... You don't get to know... at least for now. You can only trust that Allah/God/Buddha/Fate/Whoever knows what they are doing. That it's for some unknown reason that they have allowed this to happen. I've run circles looking for answers. Praying. Begging. Just tell me why! I demand an answer! I've spent a lot of time wondering, but ultimately no answer ever comes.
Except this... I wasted a lot of time trying to figure out the answers.
Allah/God/Buddha/Fate/Whoever throws wrenches into the works to derail you. To see how strong you are. To see how you will accept what is or was happening. Is it fair? No. Is it life? Yes. Allah/God/Buddha/Fate/Whoever gives you both the good and the bad. And no one escapes. You may think it's just you, but it isn't.
Carrie, you can only assume that Allah/God/Buddha/Fate/Whoever wants you to go with the flow. No matter how much you hate it. And believe me, you will hate it. It's part of the growing-up process that everyone has or will go through.
Sometimes, you just sit back and say "WTH?", then have to let it go. Otherwise, you will go crazy trying to figure it out.
CSM
Carrie, I hear ya! I know exactly what you are saying and thinking. I've sought the answer for years. I would try to do the right thing. Try to be the best person I could be. Give whenever possible. Help whenever I could. Go the extra mile to make the world a better place. Leave something behind that someone else could use. But no matter how much good I did, the bad always seemed to follow. The peaks and valleys of life. God's way of mixing things up.
Thinking back to my Mother, why did she get cancer? Did she do something bad? My Father was given a hard luck of the draw. What did he do? Was it something he said? What? What was it?
Carrie, the only conclusion that I have ever come to is this... You don't get to know... at least for now. You can only trust that Allah/God/Buddha/Fate/Whoever knows what they are doing. That it's for some unknown reason that they have allowed this to happen. I've run circles looking for answers. Praying. Begging. Just tell me why! I demand an answer! I've spent a lot of time wondering, but ultimately no answer ever comes.
Except this... I wasted a lot of time trying to figure out the answers.
Allah/God/Buddha/Fate/Whoever throws wrenches into the works to derail you. To see how strong you are. To see how you will accept what is or was happening. Is it fair? No. Is it life? Yes. Allah/God/Buddha/Fate/Whoever gives you both the good and the bad. And no one escapes. You may think it's just you, but it isn't.
Carrie, you can only assume that Allah/God/Buddha/Fate/Whoever wants you to go with the flow. No matter how much you hate it. And believe me, you will hate it. It's part of the growing-up process that everyone has or will go through.
Sometimes, you just sit back and say "WTH?", then have to let it go. Otherwise, you will go crazy trying to figure it out.
CSM